Would you like to be the most popular person among your friends? Would you like all your relatives to praise you and cousins to envy you? Would you like your parents to be really, oh, so proud of you? Well if the answer is yes to all these questions just follow the rules we’re going to give you here, and you’re sure, a hundred percent, to become the most popular person around.
The first rule is simple enough: Say ‘As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum’ to everyone you meet. I know you already say that but are you sure you are pronouncing it the right way? It’s not ‘salaam alaikum’ or ‘saam alaikum’ you know. It’s ‘As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum’. Pronounce it correctly and with love and fervor.
It’s such a lovely greeting! When Muslims meet each other they ask Allah Ta’ala Almighty to bless the other person with peace and security. And you know that a person who gets security from Allah the Glorious, cannot face any distress or difficulty at all. So Allah Ta’ala will accept your prayer and the other person’s prayer and bless both of you with the so-much-cherished peace and happiness.
Hindus perform ‘dandot’ or say ‘Namastay’. The British say ‘Good morning. The Americans just say ‘Hi’ (which is very similar to the word ‘hai’ in Urdu expressing pain!) The French say ‘Bon jour’, the Spanish say ‘Buenos dias’ and even the Arabs sometimes say ‘Sabah-al-Khair’….. all of which just mean that you may have a good time in the morning. Not much of a prayer is it? On the other hand ‘As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum’ is a prayer for well-being, security and happiness, having no restriction of time. It is a good wish a prayer for all time to come.
Let me tell you a Hadith over here and you will realize just how beautiful our salaam is. Narrated Abu Hurairah radhiallahu 'anhu: The Prophet sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said, “Allah created Adam in His Image, sixty cubits (about 30 meters) in height. When He created him, He said (to him), ‘Go and greet that group of angels sitting there, and listen to what they will say in reply to you, for that will be your greeting and the greeting of your offspring.’ Adam (went and) said, ‘As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum (peace be upon you).’ They replied, ‘As-Salaamu ‘Alaikum wa Rahmatullah (Peace and Allah’s mercy be on you).’ So they increased ‘wa Rahmatullah.’
Thus when greeting someone with salaam it is better to add the additional prayer of ‘rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.’ Thus As-Salaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh would mean ‘May Allah Ta’ala’s peace be upon you and His mercy and blessings.’ The answer should be: ‘Walaikum As-Salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.’ Some people, instead of giving the correct answer, say ‘Assalaamu Alaikum’ instead. This is wrong. So make it a point to give the correct answer.
Remember that to offer salaam is Sunnah and to return it is Wajib(essential). And this reminds me that if you’ve had a fight with someone and are not talking to them then the best way to make up is to offer salaam. Try it.
But don’t get carried away and start offering salaam to everyone. There are some occasions when salaam should not be said. They are:
When two people are talking to each other it is not good manners to interrupt them by offering salaam.
If a person is busy in reciting the Qur’an or in some other religious activity don’t say salaam to him.
If you find someone having lunch, dinner or eating something, wait till he has finished.
In a gathering where a wa’az, talk or discussion is going on don’t offer salaam to anyone. Just sit down quietly and offer salaam later.
Don’t offer salaam to a person who is performing wudhu or is taking a bath.
Don’t offer salaam to non-Muslims. If they offer salaam to you answer them with the words, “ Wa Alaikum” only.
So as I was saying you can become very popular, in fact you can make other people love you, by offering salaam to them. Well if you don’t believe me you will believe Rasoolullah sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam won’t you? He said, “ May I tell you a thing that will produce a